How to choose the extra-curricular activity of my child?

How to choose the extra-curricular activity of my child?

Well-chosen, the activities practiced outside the school favor the blossoming of the child and can be the occasion to transmit to him the direction of the effort. Explanations.

Should you enroll your child in an extra-curricular activity from kindergarten?

  • There is no obligation! But if this activity is a source of pleasure for him, why not? Because in children the main engine is pleasure. In order for him to properly invest in an activity, it must therefore correspond to his psychological, psycho-emotional and psychomotor development. For example, to register for tennis before age 6 does not make much sense, because before this age, his child coordination skills are not sufficient.
  • Let's not forget that children need to play and relax, especially as the school requires a lot of effort: adapt to the rules and the group in kindergarten, comply with judgment and evaluation in primary…

Do not we risk growing their laziness by letting them do nothing on Wednesday afternoons?

  • Not at all, rest assured! It is very rewarding for a child to have "empty" time, which he will occupy as he wishes. This develops one's ability to be alone, to invent a game or stories, to listen to one's inner world. Provided, of course, not to be stuck in front of the television or the computer.

How many extracurricular activities can we consider?

  • In kindergarten, it is better not to go beyond an activity. And in primary, two.

Is the parent or child choosing the activity?

  • If the child expresses a desire, it is good to listen to it, but it may be a good idea to wait a little before registering it, see if it insists a little and if it does not change 'idea.
  • If parents have identified talents or weaknesses in their child, they can also guide their choices and push them in a path. For example, a shy or timid child may benefit from an activity based on bodily or theatrical expression such as circus. A restless child, who needs to channel his energy, will find pleasure in karate and judo. A very social child will enjoy a team sport ... Also think that the competition can stimulate some children but it is not suitable for all.

Some children want to give up their activity during the year, what to do?

  • If we let them give up too quickly, they will not learn the meaning of the effort, the value of the constraints. Unless there are serious difficulties, it is good to encourage your child to persevere and to support him in moments of discouragement or fatigue. Because often, it's true in sports, music and other fields, the pleasure comes only when one reaches a certain level. It does not come overnight! Past this milestone, a child experiences a real personal satisfaction in overcoming what is difficult.

Odile Amblard